
NATIONAL INDO-AMERICAN ASSOCIATION FOR
SENIOR CITIZENS Inc.
Web site: www.niaasc.org E-mail: niaasc@aol.com
November
22, 2000
REPORT OF THE ‘CONFERENCE ON SENIORS’ held
NOVEMBER 18, 2000
The National Indo-American Association for Senior Citizens
(NIAASC) held its third interactive conference on November 18, 2000 at the
Indian-American Kerala Center in Elmont, Long Island. The conference focused on
the following three issues:
Morning
Session: ‘In-Family Conflicts and Compromises Faced by Immigrant Seniors’
Noon Session: ‘Process of
Developing a Community-based Senior Citizen Program’
Afternoon Session: ‘Long Term Care and Medicaid’
MORNING SESSION:
The morning
session touched the human and emotional component of elderly Indians: story
after story related by the eminent speakers and panelists:
“The model minority which suffers in
silence: An old woman who has a serious illness has to depend on her son for
treatment. She was living in India ten years ago: ‘Mom come and live with us in America where everything is in
plenty and we need you’. How could she refuse? Old people need to be needed.
She accepted the invitation. Son, Jitendra, an engineer had two young children.
Grandma enjoyed taking care of them. Daughter-in-law Sejal was finishing her
internal medicine residency. Five years later the children are in school, Sejal
has full time job, and grandmother has become a prisoner of a golden cage. She
had developed a kidney disease. She has to spend three days a week at the
dialysis center. Fortunately she was eligible for Medicare and Social Security
benefits. The children keep the money. Provide her with food & clothing.
She has not gone to India for
more than five years. ‘My daughter-in-law does not want me to cook for my son
the delicious Indian dishes he used to enjoy when single. Now I am a burden on
them’. She had tears in her eyes almost saying ‘Why am I alive’”?
Dr.
Jyotsna Kalavar, Assistant Professor and Program Director of the
department of Human Development and Family Studies at Penn State University in
New Kensington, Pennsylvania has published a book: “The Asian India Elderly in
America”, published by Garland Publishers 1998. She has recently studied old
age homes in India and just came back from India after presenting a paper at
the International Gerontology Conference. Old people prefer to live in Old Age
Homes than with their children. Many old people have to pay money to their
adult children to live with them. She described that we Indians have cultural
notions of Ashramas, when in 50’s one
should be in Vanprasthashram, and at
age 75 one should be in Sanyasashram.
As compared to Americans, our culture promotes inward thinking DHYAN, MANAN, contemplation, lack of
desire for more clothes, cut down the needs , don’t involve in the pleasures of
life. Focusing on the issue of problems faced by seniors, Dr. Kalavar
underscored that the unique problems encountered depend on the region to which
they immigrated and what age they came to America.
Dr.
Nalini Juthani, a Professor at Albert Einstein College of Medicine
spoke that there is a big difference in the two groups of seniors: one, who
like us, came in late 60’s and early 70’s, have grown up in this country, are
economically well off, have own transportation, have no problems with language
and have developed a social network. And seniors who have come much later face language problems; women still wear saris
and chappals, they can’t leave home,
and financially dependent on their children; and if living in suburbs can’t
talk to American neighbors and almost feel like prisoners. The grandchildren
who speak English may have nothing to do with them. Then there is ‘value gap’.
Those who have lived in USA for many years have accepted and
adapted to US values which could include the young ones expressing freely (considered talking back and insulting our
elders), young people wearing clothes and hair styles, coming home late,
dancing, using alcohol and meat.
Dr. Juthani’s mother, Mrs. Sushila Ghevaria, a senior from
India who was fluent in English, and in her 70’s spoke about plight of seniors.
She said she was lucky to have daughter, son-in-law and grandchildren. She has
been an election inspector for about three years. “Living with sons can cause
major problems with daughters-in-law. Son is a son till he takes his wife;
daughter is a daughter all her life. But we the seniors have to change and
adapt too to new culture”.
Dr.
Satish Varma, a Clinical Assistant Professor, State University of
New York, Brooklyn, moderator for the morning panel, said he had visited one
senior in a long term care nursing home. He also spoke on telephone to another
senior whose wife has become bed ridden after an accident. She is paralyzed
below the neck. She gets nursing care at home. The spouses sit on the bed side
or stay home all day to take care of their life partners. “That is our culture,
that we cannot explain to Americans” .We need senior clubs and senior centers
where people can meet each other, share the nostalgia, celebrate festivals. We
need the network where people can visit the seniors who are sick.
NOON/LUNCHEON SESSION:
The noon
session was a key note speech by Carol
Hunt, Executive Director, Jamaica Services Program for Older Adults. She
enumerated seven salient ingredients essential for developing a community-based
senior citizen program. Essence of these features was that one has to have
patience, resilience, openness, organizational capability, talk with people not
talk to people. Her talk was an inspiration to those who represented a number
of community-based organizations in the audience but still contemplating to
initiate a senior citizen program.
Following the noon presentation by Carol
Hunt, Mr. Purushottam Karra,
President of Statewide Indo-American Senior Citizens Association in New Jersey
gave an overview of the existing efforts in New Jersey and New York in
addressing issues and problems faced by Indian seniors. There are seven
different groups in New Jersey and one established Senior Citizen Center in
Queens, New York which provide various services to Indian seniors.
AFTERNOON SESSION:
The afternoon
session, moderated by Dr. Ashwin
Pandya, NIAASC vice president, and practicing Psychiatrist by profession,
was addressed by Kathleen Quinn,
Supervisor of Long Term Care -Medicaid with the department of Social Services
in Nassau County. She elaborated in details who was eligible for Medicaid and
Long Term Care. The nuts and bolts of the complexities of the subject were
explained in layman terminology. How one can secure financial support and what
are the eligibility requirements; how one can pay Medicare premiums and
deductibles if someone cannot afford that expense. She was generous to offer
her assistance and provided a package for the benefit of participants with
important telephone numbers in Nassau County.
Ms.
Judith Jaross, Advisor for Long Term Care Insurance with the John
Hancock Insurance and Financial Services, followed up by summarizing how
commercial long term care insurance coverage fits into the health care planning
of seniors who can afford private insurance. She spoke of the need of Long Term
Care Insurance so one gets care without wiping out the fortunes.
NIAASC PUBLICATIONS:
Mr.
Rajeshwar Prasad, NIAASC President and coordinator of the conference,
announced that the folder given to participants includes, among other
literature, some recent publications of NIAASC which will be of tremendous help
to the seniors and their families, as well as to the Indian community leaders
and organizations who wish to add a component of senior citizen program in
their ongoing activities. The pamphlet “How
to set up Senior Citizens Program” illustrates, step by step, guidelines
for developing a senior citizens program in different settings and also
outlines different phases of the program. The NIAASC also released its first Newsletter which in addition to
the progress of NIAASC lists Area Agencies on Aging in New York, New Jersey and
Connecticut States with their location and telephone numbers, provides the toll
free number of Elder Locator to identify a service provider near one’s residence.
It also provides important Web sites and telephone numbers of government and
general agencies helpful to seniors. The newsletter also lists current Indian-American
senior citizens programs in the metro area, as well as lists a number of
agencies which provide direct services to people in areas of domestic abuse,
drug abuse, shelter for battered women etc.
The newsletter also provides a background of its Board members.
RECOMMENDATIONS:
The conference discussion focused and recommended the
following areas, NIAASC in collaboration with other groups should explore:
Need
for more small group discussions;
Presentation
of information at temples, other community places etc.;
Need
to develop a volunteer network;
Professional
Counseling for seniors who may have depression, anxiety, and family conflicts
Develop
a Hot Line where anonymous callers can inform and get help;
Develop
Senior Centers;
Utilize
existing senior centers.
ELECTION OF NIAASC OFFICERS:
Mr. Prasad also announced that NIAASC
has constituted a Board of Directors and announced the names of 18 Board
members. The Board of Directors elected the new officers who will take charge
as of January 1, 2001. At the organizational meeting of the Board, chaired by
Election Commissioner Dr. Ashvin Doshi,
who is not a Board member, the following officers were elected for a two-year
term:
Rajeshwar Prasad, President; Dr. Ashwin
Pandya and Mr. Ashok Satkalmi as Vice Presidents, Mr. Mathew Koshi as Secretary
and Mr. Romesh Tewari as Treasurer.
In welcoming the participants to the
Conference, Mr. E.M.Stephen,
president and executive director of the Indian American Kerala Center,
identified the services provided by the Center and he indicated that the NIAASC
is an important part of the Center and a close working relationship between the
two entities has helped both the groups considerably.
In proposing a vote of thanks Dr. Sushila Gidwani-Buschi, Vice
President of NIAASC, expressed the gratitude on behalf of NIAASC to the
sponsors who supported the conference financially and also recognized the
groups which collaborated with NIAASC in making this conference a great
success. She thanked those who made the food arrangement, and the Kerala Center
for their help in providing all facilities for the conference. She thanked the
participants, speakers, panelists and moderators for their valuable input in
the conference proceedings.
Those who are interested in more
information can browse the web site: www.niaasc.org or write to NIAASC at 1824
Fairfax Street, Elmont, NY 11003 or call at 516-358-2300.
For further information about this Report please
contact Mr. Rajeshwar Prasad at (631) 698-0512.